Why I Founded Me, Mummy & I

I am Sylvia Emokpae, mother of two, wife, and, my own person too.

I started this company not just to provide sleep solutions for babies and families. My actual vision goes way beyond this.

A little backstory - when I was home on maternity leave with my first baby, I did not feel good all the time about the position I found myself in. I felt lonely. I was exhausted. I had no family to help or offer me an hour to myself. My husband worked in the city and it sucked that he still had a very active social life and I didn't.

I thought I was depressed. On top of this, I was worried sick for my son who was struggling to gain weight. 5.5 months of sleepless nights and a tongue-tie diagnosis later, I sleep-trained my son (after having a procedure for the tongue tie).

Breastfeeding was difficult. I tried formula to supplement my decreasing supply of breastmilk caused by the tongue tie and his inability to latch on correctly. He did NOT take it. Fortunately, the lactation consultant who had originally found the tongue-tie (EVERYONE else missed it - midwives, paediatricians, GPs, nurses, Health Visisors, AND the feeding team who I made watch me feed months prior when I first felt something was wrong), advised me about a safe medication originally used for sickness that I could take to increase my milk supply. I started to take them after a talk with my doctor and he was on board. My diddy, skin and bones baby, started to gain weight.

Thank God.

I thought this meant I would need to feed him every 3-4 hours to ensure he gained weight. For the first few weeks, I fed him twice in the night - but I ensured he self settled for all his sleeps. All by himself, by the time he was 6 months old (2 weeks post procedure) he dropped one of the feeds. He gained A TON of weight and I could no longer see his ribs.

By the age of 9 months, he slept through the night by himself.

What did this do to me?

Well, I was still paranoid about his weight gain and I continued to weigh him daily for some time. But I allowed myself time to heal.

I actually slept, too.

With sleep, came clarity.

With clarity, came rationality.

I was able to put into words the feelings I felt and I felt validated. By my own damn self.

Deep down, I knew I didn't want to go back to work, and I felt fortunate to have the choice. But somehow, I still felt guilty for wanting a little more control over my own time. I wanted to be a stay at home mother, but with the benefits of having a job, such as the actual leaving the house without a million things that a baby needs.

This is what begun a journey of blogging for me. My getaway. This was the time I had to myself. I was free and I felt at peace if I had just 30 minutes in the morning before everyone got up to do something for myself. Then, I counted on nap time to spend a couple of hours focusing on something else. Because I had that predictability from my son, I was able to PLAN. I was able to get the best of ALL worlds - of being a stay at home mom, but also of having a PURPOSE other than MOTHER.

Now, I help families reclaim their much needed rest, and balance at home. I enable sleep so that you and your family can THRIVE while awake.

Because you are allowed to want more. Or less. You are allowed to WANT. Period.

This is what inspired Me, Mummy & I.

At Me, Mummy, and I, my objective is to bring a balance back to mothers. And this starts with getting the basics right - sleep!

If I can help your baby get the sleep they need, I can help YOU become your BEST mama self too by giving you the time to DO YOU.

You LEAD by example with your actions. My time spent since I sleep trained my son has been PRODUCTIVE, PROACTIVE, and, arguably most importantly, GUILT FREE.

I own my time.

Yes - I now have 2 little ones to look after, one who is at home full time, and one who's at daycare, and I love every second of every day that I'm with them BECAUSE I am happy with where I am within myself.

I have had the time to form GOALS, to THINK, to RELAX, to SOCIALISE, to WORK HARD, to CRY, to LAUGH. Most of all, I am able to BE PRESENT for my kids all the time because I know this was my ULTIMATE GOAL.

Do you want the same, mama? The time to let yourself dream, do, and enjoy what you want?

Contact me today.

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